When the intensity increases and your child loses control it's important to take a Break. With young children, as young as two or three years old, have them sit in a particular place, a chair, a carpet square, the hallway, or a bottom step. For older children you might send them to the hall or to the parent's room or to another quiet place.

Conflict forces young people to wrestle with things in their hearts. Their desires, emotions, and beliefs get intertwined and they often aren’t thinking straight. Conflict also helps teens develop tools for handling differences in life. Three life skills are exercised in every conflict situation: Problem solving, emotional management, and healthy communication. Parents can help their kids learn how to approach differences by thinking strategically.

Many parents find themselves frustrated with emotional outbursts in their children and don't know how to correct without getting emotionally involved. One of the key indicators of maturity in kids is the ability to manage and communicate emotions in a healthy manner. But when they handle emotions poorly, it’s important how you respond. For example, the child who doesn't like an instruction or limitation may reveal frustration outwardly, sometimes in a small way and other times with downright abuse.